A few years ago, I met a guy that worked at supplier for the company I worked at. He was our account manager and he used to pop around often, as sales people do. Over a period of months, we became friends – discussion progressed from work related stuff to things like gaming (I believe it was HoN and Portal at that time), kettle bells, micro-biology, travelling, family, weekends…endless coffee’s and cigarettes outside in the sunshine.
Fast forward four years and he left to teach English in South Korea. We continued to speak occasionally and, eventually, lost contact for a while. he carried on with his exciting life and I with mine. I got married, moved overseas and got older.
In June, we reconnected on Facebook and it was as if we had never lost contact. This friend of mine who was the epitome of vibrant – he was so happy and enthusiastic, he lived his life the way most people could dream of living. In his own words, he had “side stepped” the corporate world to live his life the way he wanted.
Three or four weeks ago, he got hold of me on facebook and asked me to meet up with him in Canterbury as he wanted to hang out for the first time in two or three years – I wasn’t able to make it as I had some work that I needed to finish – well, I learnt my lesson.
Last weekend we spoke on facebook about his impending trip to Scotland. 9:26pm, and he ended it off with “Its weeeeeek-aaaaand” and a big smiley face. I worked the next day, in Canterbury and was driving home thinking about him and how I would see him when he was in Canterbury again.
Christophe died that morning, I learned about it when I got home from Canterbury.
I guess I have felt the shock of it all week – a surreal numbness. I expected him to send me a message saying “psych bro, bad joke”.
I learned tonight that he was cremated yesterday in Belgium with his family around and, perhaps, it is the finality of it – the fact that he is no longer in this world, neither in body or in consciousness, but it was then, for the first time, that I shed tears. Perhaps Mother Nature understands, as rain falls and the cloud flash and grumble this evening.
My friend, I miss your presence in my life and I will always feel the loss. Your vibrance and your energy, your good spirit made the world a better place.
Gone — flitted away,
Taken the stars from the night and the sun
From the day!
Gone, and a cloud in my heart.